‘How will my gay marriage harm your straight one?’ (1)

Feb 8, 2013 by

By Lisa Nolland In the Government’s proposals for ‘Equal’ (?) Marriage, the categories of consummation and adultery are not applicable to SS (same sex) couples. As the proposal stands, ‘married’ SS couples only appear able to commit adultery with someone of the opposite sex. ‘Adultery’ with someone of the same sex will have no legal status.  However, adultery still exists and is an operant category for heterosexual married couples. This double standard is so bizarre that legal opinion is now saying that ‘adultery’ will have to go: one cannot have totally different sets of rules for those who are ‘equally’ married.  The concept of adultery has served a vital role in terms of boundaries, expectations and responsibilities. Sexual fidelity matters, yet Government proposals signal that in law it will not for SS marriages. If 'equal marriage' is to be equal the legal significance of adultery will ultimately, if perhaps...

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'Equal Marriage' discriminates! It excludes Poly Would-be Marrieds

Jun 21, 2012 by

Poly relationships have recently been featured in the Independent (loving and committed lesbian triad, with a home, children etc). In the blog, Full Marriage Equality, polys claim: ‘Polyamory isn't for everyone, but it is for some. Why should they be denied their right to marry? There isn't a good reason. All denying them their civil rights does is make them second-class citizens based on their love. They're together. That's not going to change. Why not let them marry?’ And elsewhere: ‘We will reach full marriage equality; it is just a question of when’ (emphasis added). Poly unions have also been promoted in the pages of the Guardian and the Mail:   See http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.co.uk/search/label/U.K. (press UK, to right on side bar) for more.  Tired of being closeted, polys 'came out' last August (25th) on ITV's 'This Morning': http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aJxdI4MZj88 If love and commitment are the sine qua non, then how will the government...

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A Long, Hard Road: How Reparative Therapy Saved My Life

May 29, 2012 by

Daniel Meir Horowitz*, May 2012, Jonah     There has been much ado in the Jewish media about the idea of Orthodoxy and homosexuality. I have decided to share my personal story for the purpose of letting others know that, despite what so many people claim to “know,” there are options and there is a way out of Same Sex Attraction (SSA).   I was raised in a modern-Orthodox, frum family. I clearly remember in 8th grade being among other boys discussing which girls in our class they had crushes on. At the time I had absolutely no attraction to women and, to avoid embarrassment, I blatantly lied and said that I did indeed have a crush on a certain female classmate. But inside I was tormented: “When will I feel these feelings like the other guys?” I asked myself.  I kept hoping that someday I would just wake up...

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Has Anyone Really Changed from SSA to OSA? Yes. Me.

May 25, 2012 by

JONAH  May 2012  Bart Roberts  (AM comment:  Below contains material whichi is graphic but in our view honest, truthful and necessary.  These matters must be dealt with; not to address them compounds the problem.)     Introduction by the Author:  A person new to the process of change of sexual orientation bluntly asked me, “Does anyone ever succeed in escaping same-sex attractions (SSA)?  When I responded in the affirmative, he asked several more specific questions and what follows is the reply I sent which describes several of my personal experiences and changes within me that impacted my current level of healing.    After writing this piece, I decided to save it in my journal because I believe it summarizes my reflections and personal experiences. I also gave my friends at JONAH permission to publicize this article because they thought what I wrote may be helpful to others undertaking the same journey.   ...

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The magazine of the largest Protestant denomination in Canada features a bisexual triad

May 20, 2012 by

This glowing portrayal of a non-religious, 'open' biexual family in the United Church of Canada's 'United Church Observer' indicates how profoundly  the denomination's theological and sexual norms have changed, and the likely future of this branch of Protestantism.  Many believe  TEC is on a similar pathway, though I am not aware that it has come out in public support of active bisexual trios. That is the next obvious cohort for the 'listening process', is it not? By Pieta Woolley, ucobserver For the past five years, computer techie John Robert Bashinski has shared his Montreal row house with two partners — one female, one male — and the trio’s kindergarten-aged daughter. It’s a polyamorous relationship — on the surface, hard to distinguish from polygamy, but in many ways, the polar opposite. Egalitarian, secular and non-institutional, the family’s relationship is founded on the personal freedom of each of the three partners, he says. All three adults see other lovers outside their primary unit. Weekly,...

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The Slippery Slope at Work

Mar 17, 2012 by

Canada legalized gay 'marriage' in 2005, following the Netherlands (2001) and Belgium (2003).  At the time few understood that  other sexual minorities who made the same claims and on the same basis as gays and lesbians were waiting in the wings. Few seemed to realise that this decision would have profound consequences.  A few of us were concerned about 'the slippery slope', but were written off as extreme. What is now occurring however is that these various other sexual minorities are getting increasingly restive.  If it only takes love and commitment to make a marriage, well, what about them?  The example below is of a heterosexual poly ('plural loves') East Side Vancouver family. Though heterosexual polyamory is not uncommon, bisexual relationships, especially female bisexual relationships, are even more prevalent.  Two heterosexual and one bisexual poly people 'came out' in the UK in August 2011 on ITV's Good Morning;  polys are delighted with all the media attention they are now receiving around the globe (see their premier site: http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.co.uk/) .   From  'Three's Company:  Despite legal barriers, a Vancouver polyamorist "triad" quietly continues their...

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