How we can face the future without fear, together
by Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks:
This is a fateful moment in the history of the West. We’ve seen divisive elections and divided societies. We’ve seen a growth of extremism in politics and religion, all of it fueled by anxiety, uncertainty and fear, of a world that’s changing almost faster than we can bear, and the sure knowledge that it’s going to change faster still. I have a friend in Washington. I asked him, what was it like being in America during the recent presidential election? He said to me, “Well, it was like the man sitting on the deck of the Titanic with a glass of whiskey in his hand and he’s saying, ‘I know I asked for ice — but this is ridiculous.'”
So is there something we can do, each of us, to be able to face the future without fear? I think there is. And one way into it is to see that perhaps the most simple way into a culture and into an age is to ask: What do people worship? People have worshipped so many different things — the sun, the stars, the storm. Some people worship many gods, some one, some none. In the 19th and 20th centuries, people worshipped the nation, the Aryan race, the communist state. What do we worship? I think future anthropologists will take a look at the books we read on self-help, self-realization, self-esteem. They’ll look at the way we talk about morality as being true to oneself, the way we talk about politics as a matter of individual rights, and they’ll look at this wonderful new religious ritual we have created. You know the one? Called the “selfie.” And I think they’ll conclude that what we worship in our time is the self, the me, the I.
And this is great. It’s liberating. It’s empowering. It’s wonderful. But don’t forget that biologically, we’re social animals. We’ve spent most of our evolutionary history in small groups. We need those face-to-face interactions where we learn the choreography of altruism and where we create those spiritual goods like friendship and trust and loyalty and love that redeem our solitude. When we have too much of the “I” and too little of the “we,” we can find ourselves vulnerable, fearful and alone. It was no accident that Sherry Turkle of MIT called the book she wrote on the impact of social media “Alone Together.”
So I think the simplest way of safeguarding the future “you” is to strengthen the future “us” in three dimensions: the us of relationship, the us of identity and the us of responsibility.