by Obianuju Mbah, Christian Today
A new book examining the psychology of marriage and commitment argues that young adults remain strongly attracted to marriage despite falling marriage rates and the widespread acceptance of cohabitation.
Dr Harry Benson, research director at The Marriage Foundation, says the overwhelming majority of young people still regard marriage as a powerful expression of commitment and aspire to marry someday.
His new book, Reliable Love: The Psychology of Marriage and Commitment, draws together decades of research alongside his own doctoral work to explore why married couples tend to have more stable relationships than those who cohabit without marrying.
According to figures cited in the book, 93% of young men and 96% of young women regard marriage as either a “very strong or fairly strong sign of commitment,” while almost 90% of young adults say they would like to marry.
Dr Benson argues that this desire reflects a wider search among younger generations for what he describes as “reliable love” – a relationship in which both partners have clearly expressed their intention to build a lasting life together.
He linked this aspiration to the popularity of Taylor Swift, whose highly publicised wedding to NFL star Travis Kelce took place last month, saying the singer’s music has frequently reflected themes of commitment, uncertainty and the desire for lasting love.
He explained: “Whether you call them Gen Z, Swifties or just young people, they understand the importance of marriage and the statement it makes.
“These sentiments are regardless of wealth, but because of the psychology behind marriage – the desire to find reliable love, love we can trust – is what most young people want. Marriage provides this by each person committing to a life together and then celebrating that commitment in front of their friends and family.”