Sexual revolution: honeymoon over?

Jan 21, 2019 by

by Ann Farmer, MercatorNet:

“Huge numbers of Brits are losing our virginities before we are ‘ready’,” chirped The Telegraph’s Women’s editor Claire Curran at the weekend. A National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyle poll has found that the average age for this untimely event is 17, but “around 40 per cent of women and 26 per cent of men do not feel like their first sexual experience happened at the ‘right time’.” (‘Trust me, there’s never a good time to lose your virginity’, Telegraph, January 19, 2019).

Despite the best efforts of the sexual revolutionaries to banalise, commodify and compartmentalise the subject, the survey results suggest that there really is something to lose in the realm of sex.

The widespread dissatisfaction among the young and unattached that Curran notes might have something to do with the fact that, as sex has been romanticised, love has been sidelined. Whereas in the past love quite often led to sex (eventually), sex now becomes an end in itself, and the sexual partner is as disposable as the experience, along with what used to be seen as the natural outcome of sex — babies.

Like virginity — and despite the confidence of the sexual evolutionaries who believe that commitment and fidelity are dying out — society remains fascinated with marriage and weddings. But, since most couples are already living together, the wedding itself has come to dominate everything else – except, perhaps, the honeymoon, which has to be a grand, expensive affair because what it used to celebrate and enable has already happened. The Big Day has eclipsed the Big Night.

Yes, widespread “virginity anxiety” may be related to the fact that generations of young people, having been taught in school about sex rather than love and marriage, have already been on a sort of honeymoon, sometimes with a complete stranger, leaving them wondering why the real honeymoon never arrives.

However, instead of refreshing sex education to emphasise self-control and long-term commitment to one partner, moves are afoot to debase it even further by including the study of pornography. The excuse is that young people are going to porn sites to learn about sex, but mainstream porn is sexist, so its anti-woman messages need to be exposed and contrasted with examples of  “good sex” – for teenagers, you understand.

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Read also: Seduction and consent by J. Budziszewski |

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